Dating a heroin
On the bright side, he appears to want to get clean by trying so many times to stop. Most addicts cannot do it part time..need to be "broken down" to fully understand their addiction, which normally begins with a 30 day or longer rehab.
Your stance need to be that you won't have anything to do with him until he does inpatient. Good luck and keep posting and asking questions until things become clearer. I know that most lie but he really has spent the last five years clean.
I'm at a serious loss at where I go from here, I know the real him and I know without question that that's the person I'm meant to be with but I don't know what to do in the meantime. My daughter and I have a saying that goes like this. He has to do more than stop using he has to change from within.
I'm drained physically, mentally, emotionally, financially... I'm so stressed and I want to help him and I want to help myself but I don't have the slightest clue where to start. Thank you for letting me rant a bit and vent, I don't have many people (no one really) that I can go to about any of this. The nicest person in the world is an addict in recovery,and the worst is one that is active. I am not saying you have to give up on him,just the oppisite.
Since then he has been unable to do so, only keeping clean a few weeks at a time.
He has been back and forth between heroin and suboxone and methadone.
I've heard that it's not called a relapse anymore - now they refer to it as a "learning experience", which I think is more accurate.
Given his history I think he'll get better and stay clean eventually..has to face what's happened again, forgive himself, and decide to stay clean.
He has told me that he literally had not choice when he stole and used.
So this is my first attempt at getting any kind of help for myself about my boyfriend and his addiction. On our first date he told me right upfront that he was a recovered heroin addict and had been clean for almost five years.
I accepted this about his and chose did what was needed to maintain his sobriety.
Addicts are not usually honest with people who don't know their history, and he wanted you to accept him.
I would suspect on and off using during those 5 years.In the last two weeks he's drained my bank account, stolen from me and my family, pawned our possessions, and continued getting high. I know this isn't him, I know that the person I fell in love with isn't this person but I don't know what to do with him until/if he can get clean.